I Can’t Go To Your Thing Tonight — Not Because I’m Practicing Self-Care — But Because I’m The Worst

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Yeah, look, I know it’s a little confusing these days because evvvvverrrrrrryone is justifying Not Doing Things as a form of self-care, but I just want you to know that me flaking on these plans at the last minute is NOT about me caring for myself. I am just openly a terrible person.

The thing about this self-care movement is now it’s socially acceptable for people to be excused from bailing on social plans if they’re not feeling up to it. And that’s great for the people who are truly coping with anxiety — except I really just want to make it clear that I, myself, do not have anxiety of any kind and am not an introvert or an empath or whatever the kids are into these days.

No, I’m just a really horrible person.

I need you to know that I’m the worst! It’s become too easy for me to be awful without any real repercussions. You keep inviting me to things, no matter how many times I back out, because you have mistaken me for someone practicing self-care. No!!! I am just an asshole. Please. Acknowledge that I’m a burden to you. I’m going out of my way to be inconvenient, and frankly, you attempting to be understanding of it is actually stressing me out even more.

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I’m worried you’re worried about me and that’s why you’re letting me pull this shit. Oh my god, nooooooooooo, I genuinely want to set your expectations up for a night out with me, solely so I can then crush them after you’ve spent half an hour getting ready by sending you a text saying that I’m not “feeling it” anymore. Stop allowing me to do this!!!! I don’t get a rush out of this anymore — back in the old days, nobody tolerated this shit and it felt amazing.

Now I have to come up with new ways to ruin your life. I’ll ignore texts from you for days. I’ll isolate myself into oblivion, only to resurface weeks later and demand undivided attention without actually addressing the fact that I regularly drop off the face of the planet without any notice, whenever I feel like it. But you let me do that too! You say things like, “I understand” — bitch, what? NO.

Get mad at me! None of this behavior is productive! I am INSUFFERABLE. This isn’t how humans are supposed to behave! I’m begging you to understand this simple concept: I can’t go to the thing I promised I’d go to with you tonight — NOT because I’m practicing self-care — but because I’m the worst. TC mark

Question: Ishtikara is not working what shall i do?

I have this problem that i am suffering from for the past year and an half i have done ishtikara for nearly a week now and every time i feel anxiety and depressed.

I always make dua to allah to let me marry this guy that i truly from the bottom of my heart want to marry and have a future with. Each and every time something pops up.

Should i just gove up on my dua or shall i have patients and carry on making my dua i really want to marry him what shall i do i always end up breaking myself into a million peices.

If there is any dua that i can prey to help me get married to the giy that i want then please do help me.

Keep me in your duas brothers and sisters so i can heal much more faster.

Debby Ryan Slams Logan Paul In Impassioned Instagram: ‘Ignorance Is… Malice’

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Debby Ryan is one of a handful of celebrities who have slammed Youtuber Logan Paul since his widely-criticized and triggering video showing a man who committed suicide in Japan.

Still, despite the widespread utterances of disgust and dismissal, Paul’s subscriber count has only increased since the troubling content went live — and now Ryan is taking to Instagram to speak out about not just his actions, but his followers’ actions.

“We’re all dumb sometimes,” she acknowledged. “But can we please stop glorifying remorselessly irresponsible people? I understand talking about it; it’s an important conversation, I think. It’s uncomfortable at best and deeply triggering at worst, and not just for those of us who’ve been convinced by volatile depression and dissociation to engage in selfish, hopeless behavior.”

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Ryan’s problem comes with how Paul has gained subscribers instead of losing them, and how our culture places more value on white male voices than marginalized ones.

“Rewarding these monsters with money, support, and making them famous. Glamorizing social recklessness and being surprised when their addiction to shock factor crosses lines,” she continued. “We’re so quick to justify and defend and shield ignorant straight white dudes with cameras & loud voices from consequences, while nitpicking marginalized voices into unrealistic accountability. That silences voices we need right now.”

Her post is eloquent and makes a powerful point: in rewarding Youtubers who go for shock-value at any cost, our society both ignores more important voices and gives a platform to those who are doing more harm than good.

The Internet is Majorly Divided Over Justin Timberlake’s New Song

Justin Timberlake dropped the music video for his first single “Filthy” off his upcoming album “Man of the Woods,” and fans aren’t sure what to make of it.

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On the one hand, people are giving Timberlake credit for always keeping his music innovative. But on the other side of the spectrum, fans are confused. They were expecting a more grounded album based on what Timberlake has been teasing, and this new song is decidedly different.

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Even more interestingly, Timberlake’s single is drawing comparisons to Taylor Swift’s new music.

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Timberlake initially described his upcoming album as, “inspired by my son, my wife, my family but more so than any other album than I’ve ever written, where I’m from. And it’s personal.”

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Timberlake was born and raised in a small community called Shelby Forest in Tennessee.

“It feels like mountains, trees, campfires, like wild west, like now,” Timberlake’s wife Jessica Biel can be heard saying in voice over in the teaser video for the album.

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The music in his album teaser definitely had a different vibe so it’ll be interesting to see how Timberlake blends this “earthy” album with his single “Filthy,” which features an out of this world robot and some electronic beats.

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Check out the video for “Filthy” below and judge for yourself. Timberlake recommended on Twitter that you listen to it with your volume up.

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justin timberlake filthy music video

Do you like Timberlake’s new song?