If you were looking for indisputable evidence that Meghan Markle’s ex-husband is Petty WapPetty White Petty Crocker, producer Trevor Engelson is creating a scripted comedy TV show about a man whose wife leaves him for — gasp! — a British prince.
Granted, it’s a fictional show, and Markle and Engelson had been divorced for three years when she fell for Prince Harry, but that doesn’t make this post-breakup move any less entertaining.
According to Deadline, the show’s premise is: “Divorce is hard. Sharing custody is harder. Sharing custody with the British Royal family when your wife marries a prince, in the unforgiving spotlight of London’s tabloid media, is next level.”
The show originates from a conversation between Engelson and fellow producer Dan Farah about what it would be like if he and Markle had kids and had to share custody with the British Royal Family.
*pretends to decide whether I will watch this show, which sounds like a delightful mix between The Prince & Me and Parenthood*
As for Markle, she likely won’t mind her ex’s career move. After all, judging by her recent Vanity Fair interview, she’s living an IRL fairytale, with birds helping her to get dressed in the morning and an upbeat instrumental soundtrack following her everywhere she goes.
“I’m sure there will be a time when we will have to come forward and present ourselves and have stories to tell, but I hope what people will understand is that this is our time. This is for us. It’s part of what makes it so special, that it’s just ours. But we’re happy. Personally, I love a great love story.”
Marking the 100th episode of Teen Wolf is the harrowing series finale. The war is here and Gerard will stop at nothing to annihilate every supernatural being on the planet. Old fans and fresh faces can agree that the show has evolved since its early seasons. It’s only natural that the writers send us off with guns blazing. Literally. This action-packed season finale will keep you on the edge of your seats. You’ll be happy to see some old allies join the fray.
The episode will run a bit longer than the other episodes, coming in at around 50 minutes as opposed to the usual 40. That means ten extra minutes to release the dogs of war, or in this case, wolves.
Check out how to tune in and watch the epic season finale of Teen Wolf.
Teen Wolf Finale Viewing Details
Date: September 24, 2017 Time: 8:00 P.M. TV Channel: MTV Season: 6b Episode: 20 Title: “The Wolves of War”
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Teen Wolf – “The Wolves of War” Season Finale Sneak Preview
You know that song “Seasons Of Love” from the musical and subsequent movie adaptation Rent? It’s about measuring life in love and emotional, meaningful moments? It’s beautiful and heartwarming and I cry every single time I hear it. We measure life in daylight and in cups of coffee… and now we can measure it in Kardashian decades. That’s right. We’ve reached about 5,256,000 minutes of the Kardashians, according to my extremely poor math skills.
So, what have we learned? In 10 years we’ve all grown and changed so much and this big, dysfunctional family has been no exception. We watched the births of Kourtney’s children, witnessed Khloe’s ultimate revenge and got to see Kim fall in love… then out of love… then in love… and out… and back in for real this time.
Kourtney taught us that you’re never too old to glow up. Kim taught us that you can turn even the most embarrassing of circumstances into a billion-dollar business. Khloe taught us to laugh at our families just as much as we do with them. Kendall taught us that a can of Pepsi can do just about anything. And Kylie. Well, Kylie taught us how to overline our lips.
Thankfully, the family apparently hasn’t shown us everything, so not only will they be hosting an anniversary special to look back at the best of times (seriously, those first like nine seasons are WILD) but to also show us whatever the hell we haven’t seen yet. Most of all, they’ll be counting. 525,600 salads from Health Nut. 525,600 episodes (or so it feels). Here’s how to keep up. Somehow.
Keeping Up With The Kardashians Date, Time & Viewing Details
Date: Sunday, September 24. 2017 Time: 9:00 P.M. EST TV Channel: E! Title: “Anniversary Special” Starring: Kim Kardashian, Khloe Kardashian, Kourtney Kardashian, Kris Jenner, Kendall Jenner and Kylie Jenner.
How To Watch Keeping Up With The Kardashians Anniversary Special Online
How To Watch Keeping Up With The Kardashians Anniversary Special on Mobile
E! Now is currently only available on laptops and desktop computers. So you may not be able to watch the show on your phone, but check E! Online a couple of weeks later and you should be able to catch the premiere. Waiting is annoying but at least it’ll be worth it! You can also watch the show the old-fashioned way and catch it on TV. Check your local listings and tune into E! to catch Keeping Up With The Kardashians.
Keeping Up With The Kardashians Anniversary Special Episode Trailer
I cannot impress upon you how deeply important it is to be able to be alone. To be able to take yourself out on dates. To be able to be completely comfortable in a crowd to be walking or sitting by yourself. Being comfortable with your alone is the first step to loving yourself.
This is the problem with modern dating: we spend so much time trying to find the perfect partner that we forget how to be by ourselves.
We spend so much time trying to find the “one”, we forget about the one who has been there all along. We rely on our friends when we do not have a partner and find ourselves feeling dejected when our friends do not have time for us. There is already someone there who has time for us and we are simply ignoring them. That is ourselves.
Take yourself to the movies. Take yourself out to that fancy new restaurant you want to try. Go to a gallery you’ve been wanting to visit. Go see that art show. Attend that festival. Spend your time in retrospect, and reflection. Educate your mind and fill your thoughts with beautiful things. We grow the most when we are able to be comfortable within our skin, and don’t care what other people think when they see us walking around alone.
Other people are not your comfort blanket. People are unreliable and they shouldn’t hold such stature in your life that you forget how to enjoy your own company. The truth is, the more you learn to depend on yourself, the less you will encounter disappointment. Being self reliant and self assured are two important personal attributes that will help you not just live, but conquer your life.
So learn how to be comfortable in your own skin. Learn how to date yourself. Learn how to cherish moments alone. Learn how to experience life with the unique perspective that you were born with. And learn how, in these moments of alone, you become the best version of yourself.
Part of the fight for gender and racial equality requires calling out repeated problematic behaviors that silence marginalized groups. It’s why the term “mansplaining” resonates with so many women: the experience of having men explain our own experiences to us is all-too-familiar and condescending. In calling it out and raising awareness, men may recognize when they are doing it and make an effort to be more respectful.
Now, a social justice advocate and professor is giving name to another familiar phenomenon.
Nicole Gugliucci tweeted on Friday about a new term, “hepeating,” which describes a not-at-all-new experience for many women in the workplace.
“My friends coined a word: hepeated,” Gugliucci tweeted. “For when a woman suggests an idea and it’s ignored, but then a guy says same thing and everyone loves it.”
Her suggested usages include: “Ugh, I got hepeated in that meeting again,” and “He totally hepeated me!”
My friends coined a word: hepeated. For when a woman suggests an idea and it's ignored, but then a guy says same thing and everyone loves it
Her tweet has already amassed nearly 200,000 likes at time of writing and 64,000 retweets. Clearly it is resonating with women who have had this experience, whether in the workplace or in everyday conversation. Users are also pointing out how often this happens in political contexts, giving the example of Senator John McCain being heralded as a hero every time he votes against harmful healthcare legislature, though he is by no means the one leading the charge.
I often "helay" ideas – whisper an idea to a male colleague for him to suggest so that it receives proper consideration.
Twitter users are also pointing out that this happens to people of color, and we may need another term to describe the phenomenon of POC being silenced or ignored in meetings and at work. (Kamala Harris being repeatedly interrupted comes to mind.)
It’s worth noting that women in Obama’s White House actively tried to combat hepeating and having their ideas silenced.
When a woman made a strong point during a meeting, another woman would repeat it, giving credit to the originator, the Washington Postreports. They called the technique “amplification,” and used it to make sure their peers’ ideas were both heard and given credit for.
“We just started doing it, and made a purpose of doing it,”one of Obama’s former aides said. “It was an everyday thing.” She also explained that President Obama began to pick up on the practice and call on women more often.
This is just one example of how recognizing deeply-rooted societal behaviors and prejudices can help to combat them. In a world where men interrupt women nearly three times more often than other men, the more attention we draw to these issues — and force oppressors to draw to these issues — the better.
The fan favorite Outlander is back and season three is bringing the drama but not so much the hotness. Episode three of the season will display a new dilemma for Jamie when he finds an old enemy is now the warden of the prison he’s at. While Frank and Claire have to face the music about the issues in their marriage.
It doesn’t sound like we will be having a Claire and Jamie reunion this episode, but we can only hope for one later in the season.
Here’s how you can watch the third episode of Outlander‘s third season.
Outlander Season 3, Episode 3 Viewing Details
Date: September 24, 2017 Time: 8:00 P.M EST TV Channel: Starz Season: 3 Episode: 3 Starring: Caitriona Balfe, Sam Heughan and Tobias Menzies
How To Stream Outlander Season 3, Episode 3 Online
There are several options for watching Outlander online. You can watch the episode for free on STARZ if you are an existing customer of a participating cable provider. If you don’t have a subscription, STARZ is offering a free seven-day trial. You’ll have to enter your credit card information to sign up, but you will not be charged if you cancel your subscription before the trial ends.
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For those who want to watch Outlander via phone or tablet, there are a few options. Simply download the STARZ app via the App Store or Google Play. Make sure to have your username and password for STARZ account on hand so that you can log-in to your account.
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If you don’t have a cable provider, you can go to SlingTV and join for only $25 per month and can click here for a full list of devices compatible with SlingTV. You can also sign up for a seven-day free trial if you’re unsure about committing to a full subscription. You will not be charged if you cancel within the seven days trial period.
If you are a man, you are part of rape culture. I know … that sounds rough. You’re not a rapist, necessarily. But you do perpetuate the attitudes and behaviors commonly referred to as rape culture.
You may be thinking, “Now, hold up, Zaron! You don’t know me, homey! I’ll be damned if I’m gonna let you say I’m some sorta fan of rape. That’s not me, man!”
I totally know how you feel. That was pretty much exactly my response when someone told me I was a part of rape culture. It sounds horrible. But just imagine moving through the world, always afraid you could be raped. That’s even worse! Rape culture sucks for everyone involved. But don’t get hung up on the terminology. Don’t concentrate on the words that offend you and ignore what they’re pointing to — the words “rape culture” aren’t the problem. The reality they describe is the problem.
Men are the primary agents and sustainers of rape culture.
Rape isn’t exclusively committed by men. Women aren’t the only victims — men rape men, women rape men — but what makes rape a men’s problem, our problem, is the fact that men commit 99% of reported rapes.
How are you part of rape culture? Well, I hate to say it, but it’s because you’re a man.
When I cross a parking lot at night and see a woman ahead of me, I do whatever I feel is appropriate to make her aware of me so that a) I don’t startle her b) she has time to make herself feel safe/comfortable and c) if it’s possible, I can approach in a way that’s clearly friendly, in order to let her know I’m not a threat. I do this because I’m a man.
Basically, I acknowledge every woman I meet on the street, or in an elevator, or in a stairway, or wherever, in a way that indicates she’s safe. I want her to feel just as comfortable as if I weren’t there. I accept that any woman I encounter in public doesn’t know me, and thus, all she sees is a man — one who is suddenly near her. I have to keep in mind her sense of space and that my presence might make her feel vulnerable. That’s the key factor — vulnerability.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t spend much of my life feeling vulnerable. I’ve come to learn that women spend most of their social lives with ever-present, unavoidable feelings of vulnerability. Stop and think about that. Imagine always feeling like you could be at risk, like you were living with glass skin.
As modern men we must seek out danger. We choose adventures and extreme sports in order to feel like we’re in jeopardy. We make games of our vulnerability. That’s how differently men see the world from women. (Obviously, stated with full acknowledgment that there’s a vibrant community of extreme athletes that are women, who regularly risk their safety as well. However, women don’t need to engage in adrenalin sports to feel at-risk.)
Now, I stand about a finger of tequila under six feet. I work out and would say I’m in decent shape, which means when I’m out alone at night, I rarely ever fear for my safety. Many men know exactly what I mean. Most women have no idea what that feels like — to go wherever you want in the world, at any time of day or night, and feel you won’t have a problem. In fact, many women have the exact opposite experience.
A woman must consider where she is going, what time of day it is, what time she will arrive at her destination and what time she will leave her destination, what day of the week is it, if she will be left alone at any point … the considerations go on and on because they are far more numerous than you or I can imagine. Honestly, I can’t conceive of having to think that much about what I need to do to protect myself at any given moment in my life. I relish the freedom of getting up and going, day or night, rain or shine, Westside or downtown. As men we can enjoy this particular extreme luxury of movement and freedom of choice. In order to understand rape culture, remember this is a freedom that at least half the population doesn’t enjoy.
That’s why I go out of my way to use clear body language and act in a way that helps minimize a woman’s fear and any related feelings. I recommend you do the same. It’s seriously, like, the least any man can do in public to make women feel more comfortable in the world we share. Just be considerate of her and her space.
You may think it’s unfair that we have to counteract and adjust ourselves for the ill behavior of other men. You know what? You’re right. It is unfair. Is that the fault of women? Or is it the fault of the men who act abysmally and make the rest of us look bad? If issues of fairness bother you, get mad at the men who make you and your actions appear questionable.
Because when it comes to assessing a man, whatever one man is capable of, a woman must presume you are capable of. Unfortunately, that means all men must be judged by our worst example. If you think that sort of stereotyping is bullshit, how do you treat a snake you come across in the wild?
…You treat it like a snake, right? Well, that’s not stereotyping, that’s acknowledging an animal for what it’s capable of doing and the harm it can inflict. Simple rules of the jungle, man. Since you are a man, women must treat you as such.
The completely reasonable and understandable fear of men is your responsibility. You didn’t create it. But you also didn’t build the freeways either. Some of the things you inherit from society are cool and some of them are rape culture.
Since no woman can accurately judge you or your intentions on sight, you are assumed to be like all other men. 73% of the time a woman knows her rapist. Now, if she can’t trust and accurately assess the intentions of men she knows, how can you expect her to ever feel that she can accurately assess you, a complete stranger? Rape prevention is not just about women teaching women how not to get raped — it’s about men not committing rape.
Rape prevention is about the fact that a man must understand that saying “no” doesn’t mean “yes,” that when a woman is too drunk/drugged to respond that doesn’t mean “yes,” that being in a relationship doesn’t mean “yes.” Rather than focus on how women can avoid rape, or how rape culture makes an innocent man feel suspect, our focus should be: how do we, as men, stop rapes from occurring, and how do we dismantle the structures that dismiss it and change the attitudes that tolerate it?
Since you are a part of it, you ought to know what rape culture is.
Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture. Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women’s bodies, and the glamorization of sual violence, thereby creating a society that disregards women’s rights and safety.
When a woman first told me I was part of rape culture, I wanted to disagree for obvious reasons. Like many of you I wanted to say, “Whoa, that ain’t me.”
Instead, I listened. Later, I approached a writer I respect. I asked her to write an article with me, wherein she’d explain rape culture to me and to male readers. She stopped returning my emails.
At first, I was annoyed. Then as it became clear she wasn’t going to respond at all, I actually got mad. Luckily, I’ve learned one shouldn’t immediately respond when they feel flashes of anger. Thunder is impressive but it’s the rain that nourishes life. So I let that storm pass and thought about it. I took a walk. They seem to jangle my best thoughts loose.
Blocks from my house, in front of a car wash it dawned on me. If rape culture is so important to me I needed to find out for my self what it is. No woman owes me her time just because I want to know about something she inherently understands. No woman should feel she has to explain rape culture to me just because I want to know what it is. No woman owes me shit. I saw how my desire for a woman to satisfy me ran deep. Even my curiosity, a trait that always made me proud, was marred with the same sort of male-centric presumption that fuels rape culture. I expected to be satisfied. That attitude is the problem. I started reading and kept reading until I understood rape culture and my part in it.
· Blaming the victim (“She asked for it!”) · Trivializing sual assault (“Boys will be boys!”) · sually explicit jokes · Tolerance of sual harassment · Inflating false rape report statistics · Publicly scrutinizing a victim’s dress, mental state, motives, and history · Gratuitous gendered violence in movies and television · Defining “manhood” as dominant and sually aggressive · Defining “womanhood” as submissive and sually passive · Pressure on men to “score” · Pressure on women to not appear “cold” · Assuming only promiscuous women get raped · Assuming that men don’t get raped or that only “weak” men get raped · Refusing to take rape accusations seriously · Teaching women to avoid getting raped instead of teaching men not to rape
You’ll quickly find that rape culture plays a central role in all the social dynamics of our time. It’s at the heart of all our personal interactions. It’s part of all our social, societal and environmental struggles. Rape culture is not just about s. It is the product of a generalized attitude of male supremacy. sual violence is one expression of that attitude. Again, don’t let the terminology spook you. Don’t get hung up on the term “male supremacy.” The term isn’t the problem. The problem is that rape culture hurts everyone involved. Antiquated patriarchal notions of society make it difficult for men to come forward as rape victims just as much as they foster a desire for a man to be seen as powerful and sually aggressive. Men shouldn’t feel threatened or attacked when women point out rape culture — they’re telling us about our common enemy. We ought to listen.
Now that you know what it is, what can you do about rape culture?
· Avoid using language that objectifies or degrades women · Speak out if you hear someone else making an offensive joke or trivializing rape · If a friend says she has been raped, take her seriously and be supportive · Think critically about the media’s messages about women, men, relationships, and violence · Be respectful of others’ physical space even in casual situations · Always communicate with sual partners and do not assume consent · Define your own manhood or womanhood. Do not let stereotypes shape your actions . What else can you do about rape culture when you experience it IRL?
1. Men can confront men.
No one is suggesting violence. In fact, that’s what we’re looking to avoid. But sometimes, a man needs to confront another man or a group of men in a situation. When I’m out in public and I see a man hassling a woman, I stop for a moment. I make sure the woman sees me. I want her to know I’m fully aware of what’s happening. I wait for a moment for a clear indication from her of whether she needs help. Sometimes, the couple will continue right on fighting like I’m just a hickory tree. Other times, the woman will make it clear she’d like backup and I approach the situation. I’ve never had to get violent. Usually, my presence alone makes the guy leave if he’s a stranger, or explain himself if they’re familiar. It changes the dynamic. That’s why I always stop when I see a woman getting hassled in public. For any reason. I make sure any woman, in what could become a violent situation, one I may or may not be correctly assessing, feels that she has the opportunity to signal to me if she needs assistance. I’m a big brother to a sister so that response is practically instinctual.
But, I don’t limit this to women. I’ve also done this for two men who were clearly in a lovers’ spat. Whenever you see a situation spiraling out of control, and especially if someone is crying for help or being attacked, you should confront the situation. You don’t need to “break it up.” But engage, get involved, take down pertinent information, alert authorities, call the police. Do something.
2. Men can correct men.
If you hear a guy say some jacked-up slurs in front of you and there’s no one from that particular community around to be offended, you can still say something. This is also true when you hear misogynistic language. Speak up. Tell your friend or co-worker that rape jokes are bullshit and you won’t tolerate them.
Trust me you won’t lose your “man card.” If you’re older than nineteen and you’re still worried about your man card, you don’t understand what respectable masculinity is about, anyway. It’s not about cultish approval from others — it’s about being “your own man” and doing the right thing. You might be surprised by how many other men will respect you for doing what they wanted to but didn’t. I’ve heard it plenty. I’m not some social justice cop, but I have and will argue with whole roomfuls of men. Later on, some dudes will approach me and say how much they respected what I did. I always tell them it gets easier to speak up every time you do it. I promise you that’s true.
No one is suggesting you go around policing everybody. I don’t make it my business to make sure everyone live by my yardstick. No one needs you telling them what you think about every little thing they say and whether it meets your criteria for social awareness. But when some dude says some foul shit, and you know it — we all hear those jokes — you can let the dude know his rape joke or his “she’s a whore” analogy didn’t play.
3. Men can make other men STFU.
Let’s say, you’re in a group of men, and one of your friends starts hollering at a girl — tell him to knock it the f off. You won’t be a punk for speaking up for the woman. As long as you don’t try to score points with her for “defending her,” you won’t be white-knighting it either. You’re just doing the right thing. No one needs some sist clown hollering at her because the dude popped a mental woody. Cat-calling is one of the worst advertisements for male suality there is. Those assholes make us all look like complete tools. You get that, right? We need to cut that shit out.
Working construction is when I learned to speak up to a group of men. You have to do it. Mostly, you do it because you want to respect yourself. Otherwise, you’re another pathetic man that allows a guy to mistreat a woman in your presence. When a guy cat-calls a woman and you don’t say something, he just treated her like a cheaply degraded s object for his satisfaction and he turned you into the punk-ass that’s willing to allow him to mistreat a woman in your presence … while you say nothing.
What would your grandfather think if he saw you in that moment? Would he be proud of you? Are you proud of yourself? Male pride is good for something — use it to be your better self. Don’t be that silent punk that goes along with the crowd to get along with the crowd. Speak up when someone cat-calls a woman in front of you. Tell them to shut the f up. As a man, you have power. Use it. Men respect conviction.
4. It’s our job to have standards for ourselves, and thus, for all men.
You may think, “Zaron, man, lighten up, brother. Cat-calling is not that big a deal. Aren’t we making a mountain out of a molehill? Some women like it.” You may be right. Maybe some women do like it. That doesn’t matter. I like to speed. My cousin likes to smoke pot in public. Neither of us gets to do what we like. That’s just how it goes sometimes when you’re a member of a society. If you find that woman who likes to be cat-called, go for it, just do it behind closed doors. When you’re in public, respect the physical and mental space of others.
Don’t limit yourself to being a man. Be a mensch. Be a human being.
When something like #YesAllWomen occurs in our cultural conversation and women the world over are out there sharing their experiences, their trauma, their stories and their personal views, as men, we don’t need to enter that conversation. In that moment, all we need to do is listen, and reflect, and let their words change our perspective. Our job is to ask ourselves how we can do better.
Miley Cyrus’ “Party in the USA” may have become a staple on every 4th of July playlist since 2009, but the singer is reclaiming the patriotic hit to mean more than blind celebration.
At the iHeartRadio Festival in Las Vegas Saturday evening, Cyrus performed a number of her new and old songs. Just after playing “We Can’t Stop,” though, she addressed the crowd, Refinery29 reports, saying that she won’t stop “fighting for justice.”
“Everyone in this country and everyone around this world deserves that same respect and honor to be able to do what they love, love who they love, marry who they love,” she said.
“We can’t continue living as if this world is f-king disposable. It’s not, there’s one. There’s one of each of you and you’re all such f-king incredible, completely uniquely individual motherf-kers and I hope you never forget how f-king awesome you really are. You should never let anyone tell you anything f-king different.”
After her impassioned speech, she segued into “Party in the USA,” but not without a powerful disclaimer:
“It’s not a party in the USA if we don’t have equality, unity, justice, compassion, kindness, opportunity, healthcare, education, non-violence. So f-k yeah, it’ll be a ‘Party in the U.S.A.,’ we’ll see it. And if we all fing come together we’ll fing make sure that it is because I’m not giving up. We can’t stop.”
The song is that much more patriotic when it encourages resistance and fighting for our country to make it better.
An Indiana University college freshman lived out every claustrophobic’s worst nightmares last week when his group spelunking trip ended with being sealed in a cave for nearly 60 hours.
Lukas Cavar, 19, spent three days trapped in a cave awaiting rescue after the other members of the Caving Club left without him. He licked Clif bar wrappers and considered eating crickets to stay alive, the Indiana Daily Studentreports. He also composed goodbye notes to his family on his phone.
“I managed to get some water from the cave walls, by basically licking the moisture off the wall,” he remembered to Reuters. “My biggest worry was not making it out alive. I was afraid I would never see my friends or family again.”
The cave entrance is usually locked to stop untrained trespassers from injuring themselves, IDS reports, and the club members locked up after they left.
After his mother reported him missing to the school and the Caving Club president realized he was missing, several club leaders returned to the cave to search for Cavar, who was curled in a ball sleeping by the cave’s entrance. The club leaders brought a big mac and a bowl of pasta to the scene.
“You could tell they were pretty shaken up,” Cavar said. “They did near kill me. I can’t imagine what kind of guilt they felt.”
As for the club, they are reevaluating their protocols to make sure nothing like this ever happens again.
“We have a series of rigorous protocols in place that are supposed to prevent situations like this, but they are only effective if followed,” the club’s president wrote in a statement. “We had a failure in our leadership to closely follow all these safety procedures. The risk that our member was exposed to as a result of these failures is a vivid reminder of why we have protocols.”
1. The people you follow on social media make their lives look way better than they actually are.
2. Everybody has problems you don’t always know about.
3. The things you don’t have always seem better than the things you do, but please be grateful for what you do have.
4. The little things you worry about probably aren’t worth the amount of stress that they’re causing. The little worries at work, and in friendships or relationships, probably wouldn’t matter to you anymore if something tragic happened. I sincerely hope nothing tragic occurs in your life, but if it does, remember the things that truly matter, and remember how lucky you are to have them in your life.
5. You’re not the only person who’s not currently in love. There’s a whole sea of single people out there (because I know all single people love the plenty of fish in the sea metaphor).
6. You won’t be single forever (unless you truly want to be, which is fine).
7. You’re not the only person who feels alone. You might feel like there’s no one out there that truly understands you, but there are plenty of people willing to listen. Even the people who don’t relate to your struggles, they’re there to remind you that someone cares.
8. You don’t have to get married just because your friends are.
9. You don’t have to be married by a certain age.
10. A lot of parents pressure their children about marriage, you’re not alone.
11. You don’t have to have children (duh).
12. If you want children, you don’t have to give them the same exact life your parents gave you.
13. It is perfectly fine if you’re not currently working your dream job, but always keep your dreams in sight.
14. You don’t need a certain salary to be ‘successful.’
15. Any risk you take will be scary. Uncertainty is terrifying, but constantly wondering what if sucks.
16. It’s perfectly fine to feel lost.
17. It’s perfectly fine to start over.
18. Many good things take time. Life isn’t a race, and that goes for your professional and personal life.
19. You will mess up. It’s okay.
20. Messing up only feels terrible in that moment. Afterwards there’s tons of lessons to learn.
21. It’s okay to ask for help. You’re not the only one who needs it.
22. Sometimes having two real friends is better than having 14 fake ones.
23. Sometimes people you care about will let you down. It’s not your fault, it just happens.
24. It’s okay to think about the past, but let it serve as a reminder to keep moving forward.
25. It’s never too late to try something for the very first time. Do the things you say you’ve “always wanted to do.” You’re not too old and it ‘s not too late.